Are you really happy? Or you are attached to what you think you should have or who you think you should be ( a perfect job, the perfect partner, your perfect version of life, the perfect home) for you to be happy. Take a pause in your quest of happiness and just be happy in this moment. Are you ready to make your happiness unconditional?
“ Make your happiness unconditional. Don’t attach milestones to your happiness (no strings attached to a perfect job, the perfect partner, your perfect version of life, the perfect home, the perfect vacation, etc.).”
Simple things that can enhance your happiness
There are simple things that can enhance your happiness for example being grateful, or just simply giving.
Conditions we attach to being happy
Many of us attach conditions to our happiness. Most of us are at one of these steps below or something similar and we keep thinking I will be happy when …(I get the perfect job, the perfect partner, my perfect version of life, the perfect home, the perfect car, or I have 100 k in my bank account, etc.). We all know me we get excited when the milestone arrives but then start seeking something else and our mind is still not in peace or state of happiness. The only way to be happy is to be happy right now unconditionally (have a pleasant state of mind right now). Below are some of our thoughts / conditions around happiness:
I’ll be happy when I get a decent job.
I got a decent job but I’m not ready to get married yet. My parents want me to get married, I feel the pressure. So I am unhappy.
I want to get married but no girlfriend.
Ah! I had a breakup. How can I be happy? I always think of my past girlfriend.
I just got engaged and I worry about finances for running the family. I don’t have enough savings.
I can’t sleep at night. My baby keeps me awake all night. Never knew life is so tough as a parent of a newborn.
So much resentment from my spouse. Relationships are painful.
Things are ok at home but the economy is not doing so well. I am stressed about providing for the family.
Hey, I am worried about retirement.
I am scared to die I never lived fully.
Finally !! Death arrives.
Are you ready to make your happiness unconditional? Below are some tips that may help
“The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.” — Woody Allen
“The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are, and not who people think you are.” — Goldie Hawn
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” — Jim Rohn
“The true secret of happiness lies in the taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.” — William Morris
“They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: Someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.” — Tom Bodett
“There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human—in not having to be just happy or just sad—in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.” — C. JoyBell C.
“If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present.” — Roy T. Bennett
Wisdom from the great Dalai Lama: Dalai Lama’s guide to happiness
Insights and Lessons from the longest study on happiness
Scientific perspective on happiness
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